That one wise friend

December 29 2015

There was one friend of mine; she was single; and she warned me to be careful of Harland.

Is there that one friend that will advise you against making a bad decision?

I hope that all of us has a friend like that, because some decisions (like love); we base on how we FEEL, and not what common sense or that alarm bell that goes off in the back of your head dictates.

Sometimes you need a friend like that to be the self-awareness and common sense you lack. Following their advice, would be a really good idea.

Here's hoping to a better future,

Morven.

Alarm Bells

December 21 2015

When I found out that I was pregnant, I told him (Harland) that night. All he replied was, "Oh, ok." That should have been the first alarm bell that went off in my head, but I'd just figured that he was tired.

What alarm bells go off in your head when you get to know a guy? Do any alarm bells go off - or are you one of those that are too blissfully unaware or too in love with the person to even think about something like that?

Have any of those past experiences bitten you in the ass? Just remember one thing: boundaries are always a good thing to have.

Here's hoping to a better future,

Morven.

What would you sacrifice for love?

December 15 2015

Here's a question my mother posed in her diary:

Would you sacrifice almost anything for love?

Now, your answer would depend on a couple of things. It would depend on the level of self-esteem, self-confidence, self-respect and self-awareness you have. Oh - and did I mention loneliness as well?

Loneliness is sometimes a big part of why people get into relationships they shouldn't. Sometimes I wonder why people aren't comfortable being alone.

For me, it is absolutely bliss. I can come and go as I please, I don't have to answer to a significant other. I'm comfortable with my own company and I'm basically independent. I've also noticed that sometimes someone is attracted to a particular person because of what they themselves lack, and I don't understand this either, because I can immediately see when someone tries to do that, and that's when I tell them to go jump. Why would you want to sacrifice your independence to be in a relationship?

Here's hoping to a better future,

Morven.

How people seem, but usually aren't

December 9 2015

Here's a short piece from my mother's diary:

All I did was want to spend time with him; and looking back, I wish my parents had somehow known that I was seeing him, because they would have immediately warned me. He seemed polite, and well-mannered.

This, as I'm sure you can tell, is my mother speaking about my father, Harland. One thing I've come to know (without experiencing it thankfully), is that people aren't what they seem at first. Sometimes it takes awhile for true colours to show, and this is why a person must always take their time when they want to go into a new relationship. And don't ever be scared to back out if it isn't what you want.

I have a whole list of things a guy has to meet before I will even CONSIDER going out with him. And it has always stood me in good stead.

Here's hoping to a better future,

Morven.

P.S. Sorry, made an edit to the title.

Get to know yourself first

December 3 2015

The worst thing you can do; is not know yourself - and I'm talking about the good and the bad. And no self-denial either - if you don't want to change something or can't change it - don't stick your head in the sand. Just accept yourself as you are.

And yes, there are going to be days where everyone points out your bad qualities - hell, my brother, Elian (yes, can you believe I have a brother?) used to point out my 'bad' qualities a lot of the time - but try to move past that; there will come a day where things fall into place for you.

Here's hoping to a better future,

Morven.